Relationship Counselling
 

Johannes ( Hans ) Kelder 

Easy contact

most efficient contact is call or text 0408450008

or contact on this page

booking an appointment is mostly available  7days  8:00 - 9:30pm

Easy appointment

A detailed time/day availability schedule for APRIL/MAY will be sent to you on request so that you can choose day/time that suits you best. Simply text your email address.

Flexibility is also available for your particular schedule.

Therapy is also available online through zoom

RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

Couple therapy helps you understand why you are no longer relating to each other like you used to, or prefer to. We all long for a loving, supportive, caring relationship, where there is a deep appreciation of each other and a growing closer together. Therapy can assist a couple with any and every issue. The most common is communication. Couples often get stuck in a place where reactive triggers have taken over much of the communication process instead of considered, kind, understanding, empathic responses. Therapy can also assist where there has been broken trust, betrayal, infidelity and deep grief. The deepest of hurts and injury when mutually understood and felt, have the potential for resolution and healing. The therapeutic process provides an opportunity for couples to openly discuss the issues they face with each other in a safe environment. It provides the context for developing new perspectives, insights, behaviours and skills which, when implemented, can significantly improve your relationship.

(25 years and over 2200 couples experience - with ongoing training)  

RELATIONSHIP SEX THERAPY

Issues in a couple relationship can often result in the build up of resentment and tension which potentially creates a loss of desire in affection and physical initmacy. If the couple wishes to enter into sex therapy it will be about a couple coming into a common understanding as to why there maybe a loss of desire and where love making is nolonger a mutually satisfying experience. Sex therapy provides an opportunity for couples to discuss their sexual relationship in a safe and constructive way. It often consists of receiving some guidance that normalises a number of issues and creates a new understanding as to how a couple may enhance mutual pleasure and closeness.

RELATIONSHIP  CONSULTANT AND COACHING

This is an opportunity for you to invite me to give you either individual relationship training or to your group of employees, men or women's group, a class in a school, college or university.  This can be for a two hour session - or six hours. The presentation consists of,understanding how the brain works, some basic psychology, how to create effective communications skills by listening empathically. How to develop trust, effective connection and mutual understanding. How to deal with people's hurts and fears which are often expressed in annoyance or anger. How to have safe robust discussions and non-threatening opinions. Understanding the different in emotional level when people express opinions, values and convictions.

Short 4 -6  Session Course for :

pre-marital/couples/therapy training

A short 4 session course has been developed for couples who plan to marry and/or couples who wish to just improve their relationship. The course covers ; understanding how the brain works, some basic psychology, listening empathically skills, developing connection and mutual understanding. How to deal with each other's hurts and fear, how to keep the feeling of love and create life long intimacy. 

Important questions most people ask.

Cost ?

To make this affordable to all couples the fees per session are structured to combined income level from $120- $160 per session. Most couples are in the  $130 - $150 range.

Availability?

This often depends on demand. I can see couples at times on the same day or in the week or the next. Adjustments in the time schedule can sometimes be made for urgent cases.

MONDAY TO FRIDAY 8:30 - 6:30 On some occasions later after hours and Saturday afternoons appointments are available on request 

How many sessions ?

This is not long term therapy. Most couples can make major improvements and complete the process within 4-6 sessions. Some complex situations may need more sessions. 

Are you available to talk prior to an appointment ?

You may call me for a discussion anytime. If I cannot answer your call you will be contacted as soon as possible for a discussion of your circumstances either via a phone call or over the internet.

Other details

You can catch me weekly on 106five Ultra fm Monday mornings 8:20 " Talk to the Hans - relationship tips."https://youtu.be/36d83SOge_c             

Recently presented paper at an international conference. International Family Therapy Association World Congress 2023. Malaga Spain.  Paper entitled " How the Hippocampus Effects Relationhips."

 An article published by ABC 

https://www.abc.net.au/life/never-say-these-phrases-to-your-partner-when-arguing/11925296

Couple response to Counselling

25.1.24

Thank you Hans for the calm clarity and presence you held whilst our raw emotions surfaced and engulfed us. We walked out relieved of pressure, blame, fear and confusion. We talked for hours after that one hour with you, piecing together the truth we had failed to see. Our love has deepend and grows again.. Thanks for your skilful actions and knowledge Thank you D

9.10.23

Hi Hans. I wanted to reach out to send a big thank you! We are doing well and your work has been invaluable in our relationship and lives. N and L

14.12.21

Hi Hans,

I just wanted to send you an email to wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and Happy new year.

Thank you so very much for all your help this year with C.... and myself you made it feel easier to open up and discuss what had happened and helped us reconnect and get through the tough time. 

I'm sure I'll still have moments of worry for a while but we are doing really well and I'm dealing with those moments and C.... is being very supportive which is great.

Thanks again and Merry Christmas 

Kind regards 

cj

Hi Hans,

I just wanted to thank you again and provide some feedback after our session yesterday afternoon. It was so insightful and helpful.

I spoke with my partner N…. in the evening, everything I expressed was received thoughtfully and with a lot of gratitude. He responded exactly as per the card you gave me (the steps) which I immediately recognised and valued so much because of what you'd taught me about it. I explained the triggered reaction I'd had and why (referring to the fight/flight response etc).

We created a really comfortable emotional space for one another, both expressed our feelings and were able to offer lots of empathy to each other. I immediately felt the cold "wall" lift (empathy = connection for sure!) and was right back where I'd been before my fight/flight state, I was able to be physical again. My doubts about living together have even disappeared. It was quite remarkable!

You've provided us with some incredibly valuable tools for building our new relationship together which is so appreciated.

Thanks and warm regards, D….

23.7.20

I am writing to say thank you for your great help throughout the sessions we had with you. Our relationship has improved profoundly and finally we can understand each other better, be more patient, and listen to each other. C… and I appreciate your help so much. There are still many things we need to work out between us. However, now the road is much clearer; as we now know we have a strong base - the love and care we have for each other. Thank you so much. We wish you and your family good health and happiness, always. C… and I discussed yesterday and we decided that we won't need our final counselling session this Friday. However, we would like to keep in touch and will recommend you to our friends who need help in their relationships. Again, we thank you very much. Kind regards, G…. and C….

Name: K…. and P…. Your Email: K…….@gmail.com Subject: Thank you Message: Hi Hans Thank you so much for the perspective you gave P…. and I on our relationship. Throughout this process we have learnt so much about ourselves as well. You've provided us with the necessary tools to openly communicate our feelings with each other which helped to melt away the tension between us. We feel like we are better people because of you! And it's great to know if we get stuck again you will be there. We both feel confident in moving forward and are excited about our future together. Thanks to you we are happy and even more in love than before :-) Kind regards K…. and P…. xo

Text received from client 6.3.19

 Thanks mate, we'll be there. We left that first session feeling more positive about each other than we can remember. Regards N.... 

Our Review of Hobart Marriage Counselling

If you want your relationship to be the dream relationship that you planned it to be; Hans is the man. He teaches strategies to negotiate a relationship. He provides effective words and successful tools, the rest is up to you. It really works! BC

Feed back from course presented in Cambodia

យតើអ្នកនឹងថណនាំវគ្គបណ្ ត ុះបណាា លយនុះយៅកាន់មិតារួ មការង្ហរ និងមិតាភកា ិរបស់អ្នកថ រឬយ ? យ តុអ្វ ី? 

Would you recommend this training to your colleagues and friends? Why? 

1. Yes, very practical and helpful to resolve conflict. (បា /ចាស។ វាមានប្បយោជន៍ និងជួយយ ុះប្សាយបញ្ហា ) 
2. I will share because it’s good and I think that if all people join this course, it’d be great. (ខ្្ តំនឹងថចករំថលកយប្ ុះវាលអ យ ើយខ្្ តំគ្ិតថាប្បសិនយបើមនុសសទំ ងអ្ស់គ្នន បានយរៀនវគ្គ យនុះគ្ឺលអពិយសសណាស់) 
3. Yes, of course. (ពិតប្បាក ណាស់) 
4. Yes, I will share other experiences that I have received during the course to them as well. (ប្បាក ណាស់ ខ្្ តំនឹងបង្ហា ញពីប ពិយសា្ន៍យនសងយ ៀតថ លខ្្ តំ ួលបានយៅកាន់ពួកយគ្) 
5. Yes, hope to have more counselors to help Khmer people (បា /ចាស។ សងឃឹមថានឹងមានអ្នកប្បឹកាយប្ចើនជួយ ល់ប្គ្ួសារថខ្មរ) 
6. Yes, I will share with my friends and colleagues because it is important for myself and my work. (ចាស ខ្្ តំនឹងថចករំថលកជាមួយមិតាភកា ិ អ្នករួ មការង្ហរ យ យសារវាមានសារៈសំខាន់ទំ ងសប្មាប់ខ្ល ួ នឯងតា ល់ និងការង្ហរ 
7. I will recommend to my colleagues, my friend because it’s best training to learn something new. (ខ្្ តំនឹងថណនាំ វាយៅឱយមិតារួ មការង្ហរ និងមិតាភកា ិខ្្ តំ យប្ ុះថាវាជាវគ្គបណ្ តុះបណាា ល ៏លអមួយកន តងការយរៀនអ្វីថ លែមី) 
8. Yes, as it helps people to have more skills to support clients (Yes ជួយឱយកាន់ ថតមានជំនាញយ្វើការជួយ ល់អ្តិែិជន) 
9. Yes, it’s a very important course. (បា /ចាស។ វាជាវគ្គបណ្ តុះបណាា ល ៏សំខាន់មួយ) 
10. Yes, it’s a good course. (បា /ចាស។ វាជាវគ្គបណ្ តុះបណាា លលអ) 
11. Of course. (ពិតណាស់) 
12. Yes, healing families leads to healing communities, society. (ចាស/បា ។ ប្គ្ួសារថ ល ួលបានការពាបាលនាំយៅរកស គ្មន៍ និងសងគមថ ល ួលបានការពាបាល) 

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• Mission Australia
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